The Way They Were: Dealing with Divorce After a Lifetime of Marriage by Brooke Lea Foster
Brooke Foster’s book, The Way They Were: Dealing with Divorce After a Lifetime of Marraige is an essential read for adult children experiencing the pain of parental divorce. In fact, Foster’s book may be* one of the only books on the experience of adult children of divorce.
Foster’s book explores the loss one experiences in adulthood when they are thrust into the often messy and painful experience of watching their parent’s relationship dissolve, and the expectation of how adult children are supposed to respond.
Foster’s book hits home for many adult children of divorce as she speaks of the “insignificance” many adult children feel. She calls the book, “a guide to rebuilding relationships and forging ahead. A place to feel reassured that your pain is real, that you’re allowed to hurt.”
The Way They Were: Dealing with Divorce After a Lifetime of Marriage is a compilation of stories, interviews, and experiences from several individuals who have experienced the pain, anger, and sadness of parental divorce in adulthood, with points to remember at the end of each chapter to summarize the important pieces to take home.
Foster’s book is a great read for those looking for reassurance that the pain they are experiencing is justified. Her book provides connection and reassurance in the similarities of others experience, without watering down the pain each individual reader is experiencing. Foster’s book is both therapeutic and educational, while also providing helpful strategies for navigating through the messy emotional process of separation.
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