Let’s just call today ‘Feel-Good Friday’ …

Another great read I would love to pass on.

This article is titled, “Beautiful Minds: Musing on the Many Paths to Greatness’ by Scott Barry Kaufman.

This is great read for all, as it is applicable to everyone in a learning position – not just those with a learning disability.  If we could all change our expectations of others to a more positive stance, what would our world look like?


Vanessa Lemminger, M.A., LMFT 53937
Marriage and Family Therapist


‘Combating Asperger’s: A Losing Proposition’ by David Finch – Great read!

While browsing through Psychology Today, I came across this article that I could not help sharing.


The article is titled ‘Combating Asperger’s: A Losing Proposition’ by David Finch.  The article is a great, short read about how our uniqueness as individuals should not be seen as a dooming diagnosis, and with hard work, patience, understanding, and communication we can create more positive futures.  Finch states, “like anyone, we were born with certain assets and certain liabilities. How we manage those assets and liabilities is completely up to us, as individuals.”

Great article if you have a few minutes to spare!

Vanessa Lemminger, M.A., LMFT
Marriage and Family Therapist, MFC 53937

Social Media Policy

Vanessa Lemminger, M.A., Marriage and Family Therapist, MFC 53937




I do not accept friend requests from current or recent former clients due to confidentiality and privacy reasons.  I also do not accept fanning or liking from former or current clients as it can also compromise client confidentiality, as well as violate professional ethics codes that prohibit any solicitation of testimonials from clients.


I keep a Facebook Page and blog for my professional work, to allow people to check out posts, upcoming events and topics of concern regarding my work. I do not accept clients as Fans of a Facebook page. I believe having clients as Facebook Fans creates a greater likelihood of compromised client confidentiality and I feel it is best to be explicit to all who may view my list of Fans/Likes to know that they will not find client names on that list. In addition, my professional ethics code prohibits my soliciting testimonials from clients. The term “Fan/Like” comes too close to an implied request for a public endorsement.  Note:  Current or recent former clients should be able to subscribe to the page via RSS without becoming a Fan which creates a visible, public link to my Facebook Page or blog.  Subscribers to my blog are not visible to the public.  However, any posts/comments made on the blog will jeopardize confidentiality, and is not recommended to any future/current/former clients. 


Clients are not to use messaging on Social Networking sites such as Facebook, or LinkedIn to contact me. These sites are not secure and I may not read these messages in a timely fashion. Do not use Wall postings, @replies, or other means of engaging with me in public online if we have an already established client/therapist relationship. Engaging with me this way could compromise confidentiality. It may also create the possibility that these exchanges become a part of my client’s legal medical record and will need to be documented and archived in their chart.


E-mail is not completely secure or confidential. Please note that all emails are retained in the logs of your and my Internet service providers. While it is unlikely that someone will be looking at these logs, they are, in theory, available to be read by the system administrator(s) of the Internet service provider. E-mails I receive from clients and former clients along with any responses that are related to treatment and diagnosis may be printed out kept in respective treatment records.  Although e-mail may be used for initial communication, any following interaction is preferred to be communicated via telephone during regular business hours.


Thank you for taking the time to review my Social Media Policy.   This policy will be updated as changes in technology and the Internet arise.   If you have questions or concerns about any of these policies and procedures, please contact me for further discussion.


Vanessa Lemminger, M.A., Marriage and Family Therapist

A little bit about my work:

Vanessa Lemminger is a psychotherapist and bereavement specialist.  She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, MFC 53937.  She is also a member of the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.  Vanessa completed a B.S. in Psychology at the University of Wisconsin-Oshkosh, where she was an active member of the university’s psychology club and Psi Chi, the International Honor Society in Psychology.  She then moved to California to complete her M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy at the University of San Diego. 

During her time at the University of San Diego, Vanessa completed an internship program with the Center for Grief Care and Education at San Diego Hospice and the Institute of Palliative Medicine, specializing in grief counseling with individuals, children, couples, and families.  During this time she successfully completed 75 hours of Intern Bereavement Counselor Training at the Center for Grief Care and Education while also completing over 1,000 hours of the total 3,000 required for clinical licensure.  Over 700 of these hours were gained in direct client contact with individuals, couples, and families in an outpatient setting.  Vanessa’s experience also includes providing Applied Behavioral Analysis Therapy to children with Autism Spectrum Disorder and children with cognitive/developmental disabilities. 

Vanessa’s passion for therapy is centered around grief/loss, prebereavement issues, emotional issues surrounding disabilities of all types, emotional issues surrounding chronic medical conditions and illness, emotional issues surrounding terminal illness, and themes of isolation.  There are many things in life we cannot control (loss, disease, disabilities, developmental challenges) that can leave us feeling isolated and at times helpless.  We need to change our focus from what we cannot control to what we can control.  Helping others understand our unique experiences will create connections and Vanessa finds it greatly rewarding to help others in the journey towards building those connections.  Vanessa has also developed interests in areas including emotional and spiritual health, marriage counseling, couples counseling, issues surrounding disabilities, end of life counseling, shame and identity issues, life transitions, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and academic/occupational stress. 

Each individual is unique, thus Vanessa uses a variety of therapeutic models and techniques to help each individual along their path of self-understanding in a way that is most appropriate to each individual’s personal preferences.  She also places great value on the relationship between therapist and client.  Regardless of theoretical orientation, she believes the most productive work in therapy is done when an individual feels a sense of comfort and understanding, and strives to achieve that relationship with every individual she works with. 

Vanessa Lemminger M.A., MFC 53937
Marriage and Family Therapist